
It was girlfriends last day at work today, it's a day I've not been looking forward too for so long - we knew it was coming, we knew it was imminent and I thought I was prepared for it. My baby and I have talked about it in the days leading up to today - he's been my rock, as ever; because I've been trying to avoid talking about it, because it upsets me. When stuff affects me in a bad way that's my way of dealing with it, to bottle it up and suppress it; and although I know it doesn't help in any way, shape or form - it's just my way. My baby also knows how I operate and he's made me talk about it and made me get it out in the open - he knows how much girlfriend means to me and he knew I would struggle. My baby's helped, he's helped me so much and without wishing to sound like a drama queen; I would have struggled to some tune without him by my side, to give me love, support and an outlet. That's not an exaggeration of the truth by any means......
When we left for work this morning I promised my baby I wouldn't cry today, it was a silly promise to make; and although my baby didn't say anything at the time, he knew, he just knew - it wasn't a surprise for any of us. To be honest I was doing so well - laughing, joking and smiling until early afternoon when I got a call to go back to my office. Girlfriend had bought me some leaving gifts and well, the gravity of the situation, it's imminency and just the kindness, thoughtfulness and love they represented tore me up. Girlfriend found me sat in the office crying, I could do nothing else but cry and I could pretend to be the big tough guy but that's not me boys and girls, I wouldn't even know where to begin.
I guess that's where our friendship started - I didn't have to pretend to be anything but my true self with girlfriend, she just accepted me for who I was. I hadn't even come out as gay at work then but she gave me the confidence, support and love to make me realise that it wasn't such a big step to take; and if people didn't love me for who I was than they weren't a true friend anyway. We've stuck together through thick and thin ever since, sure there's been a few bad times but we've always come through it, mostly unscathed and still smiling; and the good times far outweigh the bad. It's a measure of true friendship boys and girls, often those you think are your friends will disappear during the bad times, it's the ones that are still standing by your side regardless of the situation that you should treasure. True friends don't come along too often in this life...........
My baby reminded me tonight that it should be a time of celebration and not of sadness, a celebration of all the fun times we've had, of all the happy memories we've made together. He's right and there are many happy memories, memories that wouldn't have been made without girlfriend, there are so many reasons to celebrate and be thankful for. This blog is littered with such memories, girlfriend lives and breathes through so many of the posts found on here, some quite obviously and others not so but she's there. These are memories of her, memories of us - a gay boyfriend and a straight girlfriend; who'd have thought we'd have lasted for nigh on a year and a half? And this is not the end, and this is not goodbye, and this is not the lasting memory on which our friendship will be judged because I don't want a day like today to be the finale, it was way too painful for that purpose. I'm worth more than that and girlfriend is worth more than that, our friendship is worth more than tears shed in sadness; here's to happier times and a new set of memories just waiting to be made.
For you girlfriend - from two boyfriends who love you very much. May your journeys always be safe and may the roads we travel cross often xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx.
"You stole my dreams and you made me see that I could walk into the sun and I could still be me............."























