Dying to get laid?

It's the first day of December 2009, it's World Aids Day, I've had the widget on my blog for a couple of weeks now - I hope you've all noticed it and if you click on it it will take you to the World Aids Day website. Being gay it's always a concern for obvious reasons and admittedly in the past I have been somewhat promiscuous; I've met guys off the internet for sex, random hook ups in bars and clubs, guys who's names I couldn't remember the following day due to being so drunk. I don't regret any of it, I'm not ashamed, I don't think I should be - it's a means to an end, the end being consensual sex, no strings sex and above all always safe sex. I've never been with a guy who has refused to wear a condom, that's to say every guy I've had sex with has always used a condom, it's never been an issue, it's taken for granted these days, it's a must do for random sex. I do not understand the notion of anyone who's promiscuous, whether straight, bi or gay not wishing to use a condom; to take such risks with your own health and the guy/girl you're having sex with is a death wish. The "it will never happen to me" scenario is pure and utter ignorance; as is the notion that it's only a gay disease - yes it's prevalent in gay men and the infection rate is on the rise in the UK unfortunately; but just because you're straight doesn't make you any less likely to contract it.

If you've been reading this blog a while, you may understand that my boyfriend and I met through a gay sex website; we started off meeting up for no strings sex as and when it suited us and when we felt the need, in between other random hook ups. And before you start judging, it's the way of the world to some degree, of course we could have opted out if we had chosen to do so but we didn't, we wanted sex, we weren't serious with each other back then and we got it through a variety of mediums. All I'm saying is this stuff goes on, if you choose to ignore it or close your eyes fair enough but it doesn't make it disappear; such behaviour may seem disgusting to you, which again is fair enough, but just because you disapprove it doesn't make it wrong. Anyway after a while my baby and I started to meet up to do things other than sex - we went out into the gay village together, we went shopping together, we went to some concerts together and just kind of hit it off - we became boyfriends. Neither of us were looking for a boyfriend, I mean I was kind of happy just shagging around without any commitments and my baby, well that's not of your business! It just happened and I'm so glad it did, I tried to fight it for the longest while admittedly - I wouldn't let my baby into my heart and soul; the fight was useless, he's just beautiful, sexy, cute, caring, loving and understanding. I love him to bits xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox.

Since the day we became serious with each other we stopped shagging around; both of us - it goes without saying doesn't it? I would never want to cheat on my baby and my baby he wouldn't do it to me, we've no need to anyway - our sex life is just spectacular; besides we love and respect each other, it stops such ideas from even entering our thoughts. But still up until very recently we continued to always use condoms because despite always having safe sex with whoever during our play days they're not fail proof; you never know. We visited the LGBT in Manchester together and had an STI test inclusive of an Aids test; I guess in many ways we were both fortunate, we were both given a clean bill of sexual health. It frees up our sex life some and cuts down on the cost of condoms - not that it should ever be an excuse; we've only taken such a step after getting the all clear and becoming very much monogamous.

I don't know, all I'm saying is we should all have respect for ourselves and respect the ones we choose to have sex with; if you cannot be 100% sure that yourself and the person you intend on sleeping with is clean - and that means if it's a random hook up it's 0%, always use a condom. Anything else is just pure madness, anything else may come back to haunt you with a vengeance; the sentence, "I'm dying to get laid" may just turn out so true. Stop and think please..................